I’ll state this right up front… I’m not sure how to say what I want to say but I promise that this will be my best try cause it really matters in my heart at this exact moment.
Most of us have heard that phrase about the word “assumption”, right? It’s actually about the word “assume”. What it makes out of “u” and “me”??? With this age of impersonal communications when people mostly “talk” by email, tweeting, facebooking, texting, and other things about which I know nothing… and we don’t actually speak words to one another. No long phone chats. What’s a handwritten letter? How long has it been since you actually MET with another person to have a face-to-face talk? It seems that those last three options take too much time from our busy lives. WHAT are we so busy doing? I’m one of those strange folks who still has a land line… most days it just sits there doing nothing other than keeping its place on the shelf. That’s sad 😦 Oh, don’t get me wrong. It gets used A LOT to make calls but they usually end up in a voice mailbox… then the answer to the phone message is a text on my cell phone. That’s dumb.
When all we do is practice these modern ways of communicating, we miss so much of a good relationship. We miss the sound of the other person’s voice. We miss the funny, quirky little sounds. We miss the emotions. We miss the laughter. We miss the tears. We miss the silent pauses… We “read” instead of “hear”. We use words that make sense to us but sometimes in the conveyance to the other person the meaning is misunderstood. When explanations are given, rarely does it “fix” things. Often it makes matters worse.
Sometimes a budding friendship that could turn into something beautiful faces an untimely death. Because of the “back and forth”… the personal part is lacking… and the friendship becomes dispensable. It becomes more work, more energy than we care to expend.
Why don’t we value voice to voice, face to face, sharing the same space types of relationships any more? Is it because we don’t really prioritize friendships any more? When you have 3000+ “friends” on facebook, who cares if you lose 1 or 2 here and there?
Is it time to slooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooow down our lives and get back to how things “used to be” when we took time for one another?
Are we so protective of our lives that we put up these false walls around our personal space to control every moment? If so, is that REALLY necessary?
Good relationships start out as friendships.
The other day… the 25th exactly… part of the devotions that I read discussed the importance of maintaining a vital connection with God. The author stated that as Christians we are to maintain our relationship with Him. In trying to make sense of this instruction from the Bible, I searched the concordance in my Bible to find out what the Bible has to say about relationships.
To have a vital relationship with God (which can also be transferred to relationships with one another) we should: TALK to one another… LISTEN… KEEP UP with one another… PRAY… Spend time together… make the relationship a priority.
In all of the reading that I did, not even one time… not even one little smidgen of information hinted at “Hurry through…” Quite the opposite.
I’m sad tonight. A friendship probably has been missed because of an assumption and wrong conclusions but mostly because of “modern technology” which took away all of the really good stuff. The laughter. The sighs. The tears. The voice exchange… Yeah. I’m sad.
But there comes a time in your life when you realize that you are only an option in the life of another person. There is a quote that somebody shared with me a few months ago… and it is real fitting tonight… “Don’t make somebody else a priority in your life when you are simply an option in theirs.”
As a Christian… I’m struggling tonight. This whole friendship thing… It’s time to go meet with God. I think He’s been waiting on me in the other room…